surrender

The aspect of ourselves that seeks to control the outcome, to possess, to grasp for external security, is precisely that which must be surrendered into the clarifying light of love. To fight and claw away from the fact only strengthens the identification we have with the object of our fixation and narratives we feed ourselves, many stemming from past trauma. To pursue pleasure or thoughtlessness and avoid pain are in essence the same movement. The center, which is us, moving from what is true now to what we think should be true. To hold our sorrow, anger, frustration, with the same attention and care you hold a child, will in itself produce understanding which brings about surrender of its own accord.

-S.L